Speed Dating Events

If your stress is being caused by something more than just the colour of the tablecloths or whether to wear a waistcoat and you are having a bout of the pre-wedding jitters, try not to worry. It is quite normal for both partners to feel a bit daunted and question what they are doing at some point during the engagement, particularly after a few deposits have been put down and money has been spent.

Getting married is a big thing and shouldn’t be taken lightly — it’s human nature to be a little uncertain. It would probably be more unusual for you not to be a little bit scared!

If your jitters last more than a few weeks and start to become something serious, that’s the time to worry. Tell your partner how you feel and consider putting the wedding back a little if need be, particularly if other important life events have happened — such as the loss of a loved one — to give you time to resolve any problems.

Wedding Parental control

Rowing with your partner may be the least of your worries and it may be her or your parents who are causing the arguments. If either set of parents is contributing towards the wedding they may feel they can have some say in the arrangements. It’s polite to listen to what they think but if it’s something you really don’t want or aren’t happy with then there is nothing wrong with putting your foot down. It is your day after all.

Your little wedding white lies

It may be very tempting to tell the odd little white lie, such as ‘the bridesmaids headdresses look great’ or ‘no darling, I’m totally happy to stand in a receiving line’, to protect yourself from the horror of any more wedding planning stress. Tread carefully; if you couldn’t give two hoots about the bridesmaids’ headdresses and your bride’s happy then fair enough. If you’re actually going to be quietly fuming about standing in line and greeting your guests for an hour and a half, then be honest. You don’t want to be forced to do anything you don’t want to on the big day and it’s certainly not a great way to start a relationship by lying, no matter how well intentioned.

Wedding Survival Tips

If all your efforts to calm her down and reassure her are falling on deaf ears, point her in the direction of the chat rooms at www.youandyourwedding.co.uk. She’ll be able to share the horror of failing to source the right kind of chocolate fountain with people who truly understand her — other brides-to-be.

If you can feel a pre-wedding slanging match brewing, go for a quick walk. Walk round the block to cool off and then head home to resume discussing whatever it is calmly.

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