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Too long has marriage, in this tasteless age, With ill-bred raillery supply’d the stage; No little scribbler is of wit so bare,

But has his fling at the poor wedded pair.

As there is nothing in the world as common as marriage, and as it is something over which men commonly make fools of themselves, it is hardly surprising that it should form the subject matter of most comedies.

Marriage … notwithstanding all the loose talk of the Town, the Satires of antient, or modern Pretenders to Wit, will never lose its just Esteem from the Wise and Good.

Venus, a beautiful good-natured lady, was the goddess of love; Juno, a terrible shrew, the goddess of marriage; and they were always mortal enemies.

‘Tis melancholy, and a fearful sign Of human frailty, folly, also crime,

That love and marriage rarely can combine, Although they both are born in the same clime.

How oft, when press’d to marriage, have I said, Curse on all laws but those which Love has made! Love, free as air, at sight of human ties,

Spreads his light wings, and in a moment flies.

Question: ‘Is it possible for true love to exist in marriage?’

Judgment of the Countess of Champagne: ‘Our ruling is hereby that love cannot extend its dominion over a married couple. For lovers indeed grant each other everything in all freedom, without the constraint of any obligation, whereas husband and wife are bound by duty not to refuse each other anything.

The Lion is the King of Beasts, but he is scarcely suitable for a domestic pet. In the same way, I suspect love is rather too violent a passion to make a good domestic sentiment.

There can be only one end to marriage without love, and that is love without marriage.

I don’t think matrimony consistent with the liberty of the subject.

Sir, it is so far from being natural for a man and woman to live in a state of marriage, that we find all the motives which they have for remaining in that connection, and the restraints which civilized society imposes to prevent separation, are hardly sufficient to keep them together.

There was already at that time debate about the rights of women, and about the relations between married couples, their rights and freedom … But Natasha took no interest in such issues, and did not even understand them. Then, as now, those questions existed only for people who see nothing in marriage beyond the pleasure which husband and wife may derive from one another, and fail to see its whole significance which lies in the family.

Man and wife, a king and queen with one or two subjects, and a few square yards of territory of their own: this, really, is marriage. It is true freedom because it is a true fulfilment, for man, woman, and children.

`One does have the feeling that marriage is a pis alter,’ he admitted.

`Then don’t do it,’ said Birkin, ‘I tell you,’ he went on, `the same as I’ve said before, marriage in the old sense seems to me repulsive. Egoïsme a deux is nothing to it. It’s a sort of tacit hunting in couples: the world all in couples, each couple in its own little house, watching its own little interests, and stewing in its own little privacy — it’s the most repulsive thing on earth.’

We are just in the throes of a great revolt against marriage, a passionate revolt against its ties and restrictions. In fact, at least three-quarters of the unhappiness of modem life could be laid at the door of marriage … And everybody, pretty well, takes it for granted that as soon as we can find a possible way out of it, marriage will be abolished.

And when will there be an end of marrying? I suppose, when there is an end of living!

I think a man and a woman should choose each other for life, for the simple reason that a long life with all its accidents is barely enough for a man and a woman to understand each other; and in this case to understand is to love.

Wives are young men’s mistresses, companions for middle age, and old men’s nurses.

What marriage may be in the case of two persons of cultivated faculties, identical in opinions and purposes, between whom there exists that best kind of equality, similarity of powers and capacities with reciprocal superiority in them, so that each can enjoy the luxury of looking up to the other … I will not attempt to describe.

In most good marriages, the woman is her husband’s closest friend and adviser.

I’ll suffer no daughter of mine to play the fool with her heart, indeed! She shall marry for the purpose for which matrimony was ordained amongst people of birth — that is, for the aggrandisement of her family, the extending of their political influence — for becoming, in short, the depository of their mutual interest. These are the only purposes for which persons of rank ever think of marriage.

She herself had sought dignity and she thinks that everyone should follow her example. The boys will marry eventually but their brides must be carefully chosen; they will have to be of a suitable pattern to conform with the family destiny.

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