Speed Dating Events

Remember, The Dating are about the long haul. The wa_y a man behaves—rather, the way you allow him to behave toward you—during your courtship is usually the way he will behave during your marriage. For example, if he’s last minute about dating you, he’ll be last minute and inattentive about you in other ways. That’s why last-minute dates are just unacceptable. Men who call ten minutes before they’re going to be in your area to see you may be terrific dates, but how busy and hard to get are you if they can see you in ten minutes? If you give in, these men will end up treating you like someone they can get in ten minutes. Read the rest of this entry »

Rabbi Yonah says that even if you are honest and open about coveting something, this will still have destructive consequences. For example if you desire to buy an object that belongs to your friend, and you know that once you ask him for it he will find it difficult to say no, it is forbidden to make the request. Your covetousness has become coercive and therefore very unfair. Read the rest of this entry »

MY DEAR MADAM,

. . . Is it most expedient for a man to make avowal of his attachment to a lady ‘viva voce’ (`anglice’ in ate a ate) or by epistolary correspondence?

This preface explains the motive of my now addressing you. It will save me the necessity of a more explicit avowal, and declare to you that my future happiness on earth is at your disposal . . .

And so on, for pages and pages of pompous and prosaic guff. Mr Trollope, like Mr Collins, claims to despise those who ‘contract alliances upon motives of a pecuniary nature’, yet his letter goes into both his financial situation and hers in minute detail. Finally he winds up on a note of unconcious irony: Read the rest of this entry »

Signed, sealed, delivered. Cecily’s dazzling adroitness at tying the knot, in the absence and without the knowledge of her intended, can only evoke the purest admiration. Sheer professionalism, that’s what it is. Wilde more than once makes the observation that men often propose for practice. Judging from Cecily’s expertise, they must all propose to the same girls!

That is certainly the experience of the heroine of Judith Krantz’ Scruples, the fabulously sexy Billy Winthrop, who learns from her best friend Jessica to rate her men out of ten, and keeps score in quite the literalest sense of the word: Read the rest of this entry »

Amazingly, Lord Randolph stood firm under this battery, and went on to repeat his proposal to Jennie Jerome in form. She married him, and subsequently became the mother of Winston Churchill. What more could any woman have done for England?

But Jennie’s life was to be dogged by domineering males poking their noses into her love affairs. Later, after she was widowed, she was courted by a much younger man. No less a person than Edward, Prince of Wales, intervened this time, to tell her that if she married her lover she would never be able to mix in court circles again. This was a royal act of humbug from the princely hypocrite, to condone an affair but not a marriage — and the Prince’s own dedication to the art of the horizontal hardly qualified him to give a moral lead! In the end Jennie cocked the aristocratic equivalent of two fingers at the whole pack of them, married her lover anyway, and did not lose either her friends or her position. Read the rest of this entry »