It can be tough to unleash your sensuality if the object of your desire is usually backing out of the driveway as you pull in, and vice versa. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to keep the passion alive when your schedules just don’t jibe. Read the rest of this entry »

Romantic retaliation is a tricky thing. As someone once said (we think it was Alec Guinness, but maybe it was Martha Stewart), revenge is a dish that people of taste prefer to eat cold. We’re not exactly sure what that means—we think it means something like it’s better not to fly off the handle all hot-headed, but rather to seek vengeance in a cold, calculating, meticulous way. Read the rest of this entry »

The easiest way to get out of an uncomfortable sexual setting is to not be there in the first place. Read the rest of this entry »

I like my lovers to be female, human and alive, but in a pinch, I’ll take any two out of three.

Love is just a system for getting someone to call you darling after sex.

A lot of girls go out with me just to further their careers — damn anthropologists. Read the rest of this entry »

A man with pierced ears is better prepared for marriage. He has experienced pain and bought jewellery.

Only a flaw of fate prevented Vita Sackville-West from being one of nature’s gentlemen.

Women are a problem, but they are the kind of problem I enjoy wrestling with. Read the rest of this entry »

Rabbi Yonah says that even if you are honest and open about coveting something, this will still have destructive consequences. For example if you desire to buy an object that belongs to your friend, and you know that once you ask him for it he will find it difficult to say no, it is forbidden to make the request. Your covetousness has become coercive and therefore very unfair. Read the rest of this entry »

‘I want to ask you a question.’

‘What?’ I said, in a small unpromising voice. ‘How would you like to be Mrs Buddy Willard?’

‘Man proposes, God disposes’, runs the proverb. And women have to put up with the mess they both make of it’, as one of England’s premier duchesses observes in her irreverent moments. Since society and custom have traditionally favoured men with the right of proposing, all too often women are no more than sitting ducks — and there are some terrible bird dogs around. Read the rest of this entry »

`Suffer me, suffer me then,’ cried he with warmth, ‘to hasten the time when none shall longer harbour any doubt — when your grateful Orville may call you all his own!’

It’s all very well being crept up on, when the marriage moment takes both partners by surprise. But there’s no doubt that both women and men love a little more formality on this extra-special occasion. Romantics look back wistfully to the Good Old Days, when a proposal of marriage was a serious business, and taken seriously by all concerned. Read the rest of this entry »

Self-stimulation can help survivors through impasses with insertion. Stimulate the clitoris before and during the dilator exercises. Sexual arousal increases natural lubrication and causes vaginal expansion, often making insertion easier. This variation is also useful in helping a survivor associate pleasurable sensations with vaginal fullness. Feeling comfortable with these sensations can eventually facilitate the ability to have orgasms during intercourse. Read the rest of this entry »

Women survivors may have difficulty with vaginal penetration because of two sexual problems.

Vaginismus is a reflexive tightening of the muscles in the outer third of the vagina when penetration is attempted. Women with this condition may have difficulty with intercourse as well as with insertion of a finger, dildo, or medical instrument.

Dyspareunia, or painful intercourse, is another dysfunction that can make intercourse difficult. In this condition, a woman experiences pain as burning, cramping, or sharpness that begins sometime during intercourse itself. Both vaginismus and dyspareunia can result from associating fear and pain of past sexual abuse with present intercourse. In some cases painful intercourse may be directly related to actual physical damage to vaginal tissues, nerves, and internal organs done during brutal sexual assault. Read the rest of this entry »