People say that music soothes the savage breast of heartache. We aren’t so sure. But a little karaoke recuperation never hurt anyone. In fact, flexing those vocal cords with a few tunes might just make you feel, if not halfway decent, foolish enough to laugh at yourself. Give these old ditties a whirl: Read the rest of this entry »

Old Wives‘ Tale #1: The recovery period for a breakup is roughly half the length of the relationship. In other words, if you’ve just come out of a four-year romance, you can kiss the next two years good-bye. But if you were madly in love for only four months, gosh, you should be right as rain in eight short weeks. Read the rest of this entry »

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Can I put you on hold for one second?

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What a relief! I’ve been meaning to say the exact same thing to you! Read the rest of this entry »

Romantic retaliation is a tricky thing. As someone once said (we think it was Alec Guinness, but maybe it was Martha Stewart), revenge is a dish that people of taste prefer to eat cold. We’re not exactly sure what that means—we think it means something like it’s better not to fly off the handle all hot-headed, but rather to seek vengeance in a cold, calculating, meticulous way. Read the rest of this entry »

These days, many women choose to let their fingers do the stalking_; they prefer to seek vindication without ever having to leave the comfort of their own homes. In other words, they make use of one of the cruelest instruments of modern times: the telephone. Read the rest of this entry »

Infatuation is when you think he’s as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as Woody Allen and as athletic as Jimmy Connors. Love is when you realise he’s as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy Connors, as funny as Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger and nothing like Robert Redford — but you’ll take him anyway. Read the rest of this entry »

In case you skipped this bit, it is worth repeating here. Jealousy within a relationship is not only allowed, it is healthy and even mandatory. The Tenth Commandment prohibits coveting another man’s wife. But it allows you to covet your own wife. Read the rest of this entry »

Self-stimulation can help survivors through impasses with insertion. Stimulate the clitoris before and during the dilator exercises. Sexual arousal increases natural lubrication and causes vaginal expansion, often making insertion easier. This variation is also useful in helping a survivor associate pleasurable sensations with vaginal fullness. Feeling comfortable with these sensations can eventually facilitate the ability to have orgasms during intercourse. Read the rest of this entry »

Women survivors may have difficulty with vaginal penetration because of two sexual problems.

Vaginismus is a reflexive tightening of the muscles in the outer third of the vagina when penetration is attempted. Women with this condition may have difficulty with intercourse as well as with insertion of a finger, dildo, or medical instrument.

Dyspareunia, or painful intercourse, is another dysfunction that can make intercourse difficult. In this condition, a woman experiences pain as burning, cramping, or sharpness that begins sometime during intercourse itself. Both vaginismus and dyspareunia can result from associating fear and pain of past sexual abuse with present intercourse. In some cases painful intercourse may be directly related to actual physical damage to vaginal tissues, nerves, and internal organs done during brutal sexual assault. Read the rest of this entry »