Speed Dating Events

Western women tend to be more unrealistic about marriage than their sisters around the world. Films and television have made them feel that romantic excitement is not only a birthright, but it is elevated to the most important aspect of marriage. Read the rest of this entry »

In fairness, even the most dreadful line can work. A handsome Aussie has made himself the Terror of Earl’s Court with his killing parodies of the Private Eye gag, ‘Let’s uncoil the one-eyed trouser snake’. He could also pull out ‘pyjama python’ and the whole armoury of cod okkerisms when he felt like a textual variant. Read the rest of this entry »

If you are following your heart religiously, there is no reason to call him. He should be calling you, and calling you again and again until he pins you down for a date.

To call men is to pursue them, which is totally against your heart. They will immediately know that you like them and possibly lose interest! Another reason not to call men is so you don’t catch them in the middle of something—watching a football game, paying bills, entertaining a friend, or even sleeping— when they may not be in the mood to talk to you. Why take a chance? Read the rest of this entry »

Here’s another example of a smart woman who broke her rules: Claudia, a confident Wall Street broker, spotted her future husband on the dance floor of a popular disco and planted herself next to him for a good five minutes. When he failed to make the first move, she told herself that he was probably shy or had two left feet and asked him to dance. The relationship has been filled with problems. She often complains that he’s as “shy” in the bedroom as he was that night on the dance floor. Read the rest of this entry »

Never? Not even “Let’s have coffee” or “Do you come here often?” Right, not even these seemingly harmless openers. Otherwise, how will you know if he spotted you first, was smitten by you and had to have you, or is just being polite?

We know what you’re thinking. We know how extreme such a rule must sound, not to mention snobbish, silly, and painful; but it makes perfect sense. After all, the premise of the rules is that we never make anything happen, that we trust in the natural order of things — namely, that man pursues woman. Read the rest of this entry »

Being a creature unlike any other is a state of mind. You don’t have to be rich, beautiful, or exceptionally smart to feel this way about yourself. And you don’t have to be born with this feeling either.

Being a creature unlike any other is really an attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that permeates your being from head to toe. It’s the way you smile (you light up the room), pause in between sentences (you don’t babble on and on out of nervousness), listen (attentively), look (demurely, never stare), breathe (slowly), stand (straight), and walk (briskly, with your shoulders back). Read the rest of this entry »

It is axiomatic that money doesn’t buy you happiness. So what does it buy? Only one important thing: freedom. If you have money, you can choose where you want to work, how much you want to work, or even not to work. You can pop over to another country for the weekend, or buy a beautiful country retreat. You can spend your money on clothes, fancy restaurants, or on your favorite pastime. You are free to choose. How sad it is, therefore, when successful men and women become enslaved rather than liberated by their money. Read the rest of this entry »

In case you skipped this bit, it is worth repeating here. Jealousy within a relationship is not only allowed, it is healthy and even mandatory. The Tenth Commandment prohibits coveting another man’s wife. But it allows you to covet your own wife. Read the rest of this entry »

One of the greatest payoffs of doing The Rules is that you grow to love only those who love you. If you have been following the suggestions you have learned to take care of yourself. You’re eating well and working out. You’re busy with interests and hobbies and dating, and you’re not calling or chasing men. You have high self-esteem because you are not sleeping around or having affairs with married men. You love with your head, not just your heart. You are honest; you have boundaries, values, and ethics. You are special, a creature unlike any other. Any man would be lucky to have you! Read the rest of this entry »

But often when a man makes an ill-considered plunge into wedlock, it is more a question of his falling than being pushed. Such is the case of H. G. Wells’s hero in The History of Mr Polly. Vague feelings of dissatisfaction with his life, ambitions to open a shop, a sunny afternoon in the park and the presence of a girl he has been seeing for some time, all come together in one fatal impulse:

One did ought to be happy in a shop,’ said Miriam, with a note of unusual softness in her voice . . .‘I could be happy in a shop,’ he said.His sense of effect had made him pause. Read the rest of this entry »