Old Wives‘ Tale #1: The recovery period for a breakup is roughly half the length of the relationship. In other words, if you’ve just come out of a four-year romance, you can kiss the next two years good-bye. But if you were madly in love for only four months, gosh, you should be right as rain in eight short weeks. Read the rest of this entry »

When a couple has a fight, there is no real winner.

Oh, one of you might make your point— or manage to score points off the other. But it’s a hollow victory at best. Ultimately, when a couple fights, they’re not solving problems; they’re creating them. Read the rest of this entry »

Romantic retaliation is a tricky thing. As someone once said (we think it was Alec Guinness, but maybe it was Martha Stewart), revenge is a dish that people of taste prefer to eat cold. We’re not exactly sure what that means—we think it means something like it’s better not to fly off the handle all hot-headed, but rather to seek vengeance in a cold, calculating, meticulous way. Read the rest of this entry »

These days, many women choose to let their fingers do the stalking_; they prefer to seek vindication without ever having to leave the comfort of their own homes. In other words, they make use of one of the cruelest instruments of modern times: the telephone. Read the rest of this entry »

He’s been acting weird. You’re not sure, but you’re afraid that trouble’s afoot. Does he: Read the rest of this entry »

Sometimes when a woman has strong feelings, she talks to discover what her feelings are. If her partner is a good listener and practices ducking and dodging and not interrupting, she can get it all out. By noticing when she is feeling upset, tired, or overwhelmed and then initiating a conversation by asking questions, it can help her a lot. Read the rest of this entry »

Self-stimulation can help survivors through impasses with insertion. Stimulate the clitoris before and during the dilator exercises. Sexual arousal increases natural lubrication and causes vaginal expansion, often making insertion easier. This variation is also useful in helping a survivor associate pleasurable sensations with vaginal fullness. Feeling comfortable with these sensations can eventually facilitate the ability to have orgasms during intercourse. Read the rest of this entry »