Stop number one for most men: In this stage, a man will deal with his problems by simply . . . not dealing. He’ll do just about anything to distract himself from the sad topic at hand—e.g., if he thought that walking over hot coals might help him get his mind off things, he’d happily march right over them. “There’s nothing like a good bungee jump to put things in perspective,” said one thirty-four-year-old respondent. Whatever you say, Geronimo. Read the rest of this entry »

Never leave your wallet unattended, and other ways to avoid getting robbed

Have you left your purse in the cart at the grocery store and walked a little further down the aisle to get some hamburger meat? In the middle of a sales transaction, have you left your wallet on the counter while you bent over to deal with your fussy baby in the stroller beside you? Don’t do that! Read the rest of this entry »

If you have been the victim of a sexual assault, get to a safe place and call the police. Have a trusted friend stay with you and help you through this devastating and horrific time. Make sure to preserve all physical evidence of the assault. Read the rest of this entry »

Remember: The key to staying alive as a stalking victim is to stay one step ahead of your stalker. Read the rest of this entry »

Falling in love is a most delightful experience, especially during the teen years. In fact, it is about the only kind of falling that we ever enjoy. But at such times we are not always too responsible for our actions. That is why it is so important to think before you date. Many young people think they are in love with someone when, in reality, they are only in love with life. Read the rest of this entry »

It’s quite common these days for men to ask women out for the same night or the very next day. And it’s equally common for women to accept such casual, last-minute invitations out of fear that it will be the best offer they get that week. But this is not a Dating date. The man who eventually wants to marry you will not wait until the last minute to ask you out. On the contrary, he is kind, considerate, thoughtful and also afraid that if he doesn’t pin you down five days in advance, he may not see you for another week. And when he is in love with you, a week will feel like eternity! Read the rest of this entry »

Every day you will see storybook couples, infuriatingly happy with one another. Everything looks good about them – their smiles, their hair, even their fashion sense seems flawless. They look completely absorbed in love. Their sex life is great, you don’t doubt, and each and every second they spend together must be as hot as bonfire night. Read the rest of this entry »

One of the greatest payoffs of doing The Rules is that you grow to love only those who love you. If you have been following the suggestions you have learned to take care of yourself. You’re eating well and working out. You’re busy with interests and hobbies and dating, and you’re not calling or chasing men. You have high self-esteem because you are not sleeping around or having affairs with married men. You love with your head, not just your heart. You are honest; you have boundaries, values, and ethics. You are special, a creature unlike any other. Any man would be lucky to have you! Read the rest of this entry »

Of all sad words of tongue and pen, The saddest are, ‘It might have been’.

Among the annals of marriage proposal, a special chapel of remembrance hung with rosemary and rue must be set aside for those which however deeply desired, are not fated to succeed. Many couples do not manage to make the step from private love to public commitment. They do not get the marriage act together, for any number of reasons. Read the rest of this entry »

Brutally Ransome fights off all remonstration, all reproach: ‘do you suppose I pretend not to be selfish?’ he demands. ‘She’s mine or she isn’t, and if she’s mine she’s all mine.’ Even the pleas of Verena herself have no impact on him:

‘Oh, let me off, let me off . . . its too terrible, it’s impossible. Now I want you to go away — I will see you tomorrow, as long as you wish. That’s all I want now; if you will only go away it’s not too late, and everything will be alright!’

In answer, Ransome simply states:

We shall catch the night train for New York, and the first thing in the morning we shall be married. Read the rest of this entry »