Speed Dating Events

Don’t call men,except occasionally to return their calls. When a boyfriend calls you, don’t stay on the phone for more than ten minutes. Buy a timer if you have to. When the bell rings, you have to go! That way you seem busy and you won’t give away too much about yourself or your plans (even if you don’t have any plans). By ending the conversation first, you leave them wanting more. Good conversation enders are: “I have a million things to do,” “Well, it’s been really nice talking to you,” “Actually, I’m kind of busy right now,” and “My beeper’s beeping, got to run!” Remember to say these things in a very nice way. Read the rest of this entry »

Why take a chance?

Invariably, when you call him, he will get off the phone first or quickly and you might misinterpret his busyness as disinterest. You may even think that he’s with another woman! Understandably, you feel empty and nervous for the rest of the day or evening or until you hear from him again. This nervousness might make you call him again to ask, “Is everything okay?” or “Do you still love me? miss me?” And, you end up breaking more rules!

So, if you don’t want a man to know how much you like him, or that you feel empty and insecure, don’t call him. If he leaves a message on your machine to return his call, try not to. Only call him back right away if it’s a scheduling change regarding an upcoming date or event, not just to chat. Read the rest of this entry »

Looking at someone first is a dead giveaway of interest. Let him look at you! If he doesn’t notice you first, he’s probably not interested. Keep walking, someone else will notice you.

Did you know that there are workshops designed to teach women how to make eye contact with men they find attractive? Save your money. It is never necessary to make eye contact. What about letting men know you’re receptive? We suggest simply smiling at the room (or the universe, if you will), and looking relaxed and approachable. That’s how to acknowledge a man’s attention, not by staring at him. Don’t look anxiously around for “The One.” That is certain to make anyone look the other way. There is nothing attractive about anxiety. Read the rest of this entry »

Here’s another example of a smart woman who broke her rules: Claudia, a confident Wall Street broker, spotted her future husband on the dance floor of a popular disco and planted herself next to him for a good five minutes. When he failed to make the first move, she told herself that he was probably shy or had two left feet and asked him to dance. The relationship has been filled with problems. She often complains that he’s as “shy” in the bedroom as he was that night on the dance floor. Read the rest of this entry »

Never? Not even “Let’s have coffee” or “Do you come here often?” Right, not even these seemingly harmless openers. Otherwise, how will you know if he spotted you first, was smitten by you and had to have you, or is just being polite?

We know what you’re thinking. We know how extreme such a rule must sound, not to mention snobbish, silly, and painful; but it makes perfect sense. After all, the premise of the rules is that we never make anything happen, that we trust in the natural order of things — namely, that man pursues woman. Read the rest of this entry »

Note that the commandment emphatically uses the words ‘every thing’ in prescribing the act of coveting. There is a profound lesson attached to this, as it points to the fact that we tend to covet selectively, rather than perceiving the entire picture when it comes to the object of our desire. Read the rest of this entry »

Rabbi Yonah says that even if you are honest and open about coveting something, this will still have destructive consequences. For example if you desire to buy an object that belongs to your friend, and you know that once you ask him for it he will find it difficult to say no, it is forbidden to make the request. Your covetousness has become coercive and therefore very unfair. Read the rest of this entry »

However, there are times when you may feel you have no alternative but to use a person’s covetousness to your advantage. This is especially true for you guys out there who are just hopeless when it comes to meeting women.

If, despite every humiliation you have received in the past, you are desperate to meet women, then I suggest that you accessorise. Have something in hand that you know will draw the females to you. The following are good ideas. Read the rest of this entry »

Oh maiden, let your distaff be,

And pace the flowery meads with me, And 1 will tell you lies . . .

Oh follow me where love is flown, Into the leafy woods alone,

And I will work you ill.

Once upon time, long ago and far away, men didn’t just up and out with it. They expected to have to court the chosen lady, to flatter, to persuade, to beat down a real resistance. They had to stoke up the fires of passion if they hoped to build up a head of steam. Read the rest of this entry »

DOLLY LEVI: Horace, you can’t deny it, your wife would have to be a SOMEBODY. Answer me: am I a somebody?

VANDERGELDER: You are . . . you are . . . A wonderful woman.

DOLLY LEVI: Oh, you’re partial.

VANDERGELDER: Dolly, everybody knows that you could do anything you wanted to do Read the rest of this entry »