Speed Dating Events

Nightmare #1: You’re sitting in your living room, burning votive candles, poring over photos of Him, and the phone rings. It’s your best friend, telling you that she saw the ex-love of your life at a party, drinking, laughing —laughing!— flirting, high-fiving all over the place, celebrating his newfound freedom . . . oh, and one more thing, she hates to say it (sure she does), but boy, does he ever look great. Read the rest of this entry »

Old Wives‘ Tale #1: The recovery period for a breakup is roughly half the length of the relationship. In other words, if you’ve just come out of a four-year romance, you can kiss the next two years good-bye. But if you were madly in love for only four months, gosh, you should be right as rain in eight short weeks. Read the rest of this entry »

Be an active listener.

One important way to keep an argument focused and avoid escalation is to make it clear that you’re listening to what your partner says. One way to do that, marriage educators suggest, is to employ a technique called active listening. When your partner says something, repeat it or paraphrase it as best you can and ask if you got it right. Don’t argue about it or challenge how your partner feels, he says. Understand how your partner feels and acknowledge its validity. Read the rest of this entry »

These days, many women choose to let their fingers do the stalking_; they prefer to seek vindication without ever having to leave the comfort of their own homes. In other words, they make use of one of the cruelest instruments of modern times: the telephone. Read the rest of this entry »

He’s been acting weird. You’re not sure, but you’re afraid that trouble’s afoot. Does he: Read the rest of this entry »

People keep asking me if I’ll marry again. It’s as if after you’ve had one car crash you want another.

Never get into a narrow double bed with a wide single man.

When a man makes a woman his wife it’s the highest compliment he can pay her and it’s usually the last. Read the rest of this entry »

Note that the commandment emphatically uses the words ‘every thing’ in prescribing the act of coveting. There is a profound lesson attached to this, as it points to the fact that we tend to covet selectively, rather than perceiving the entire picture when it comes to the object of our desire. Read the rest of this entry »

Becky is fated never to become Lady Crawley. But sometimes the loser lives to fight another day. More poignant still are those proposals which hover on the brink of fulfilment rather than living on into reality.

No one conveys the sensation of love holding its breath better than Dick Francis, a master of the experience of unfulfilled longing. His heroes, bruised and bemused by life’s rough passage, can see new love glimmering and growing but hardly dare to hope that it can be for them. The defeats of the past have taught them that loving means losing, and the loser left with nothing but a legacy of painful memories and stifled sighs. Read the rest of this entry »

Of all sad words of tongue and pen, The saddest are, ‘It might have been’.

Among the annals of marriage proposal, a special chapel of remembrance hung with rosemary and rue must be set aside for those which however deeply desired, are not fated to succeed. Many couples do not manage to make the step from private love to public commitment. They do not get the marriage act together, for any number of reasons. Read the rest of this entry »

Self-stimulation can help survivors through impasses with insertion. Stimulate the clitoris before and during the dilator exercises. Sexual arousal increases natural lubrication and causes vaginal expansion, often making insertion easier. This variation is also useful in helping a survivor associate pleasurable sensations with vaginal fullness. Feeling comfortable with these sensations can eventually facilitate the ability to have orgasms during intercourse. Read the rest of this entry »